How to Have a Small Private Wedding

If a small private wedding is what you want, everyone close to you has to understand your needs and desires. Without hurting their feelings, there are a few ways to have everyone meet in the middle (depending on what type of family you have).
Have a small Private affair to remember! Wedding time is normally considered a time of grand celebration, expenses and people. It is undeniably a couple’s personal decision either to have a grand celebration or a simple private affair with family and close friends. Your bonding, rituals and feelings are going to be the same with or without countless people. It is certainly a very wise decision to have a small scale wedding and not many would dare to think on this line. Here are few ideas to rally round while you arrange a small private wedding-

Steps

Stand politely firm in your decision to have a small wedding and make it clear that you will not change your plans no matter how much pressure others put on you.
Allow family members and friends to suggest a guest list and assure them that those who do not receive an invitation to the wedding will be invited to an informal reception at a later date.
Set an amount you are willing to spend on your wedding and reception. Create a budget that will keep you within your means. Download free wedding planning guides to see what expenses you must incur and what you can omit or reduce. Be realistic; even a low cost wedding demands a reasonable amount of funds.
Choose a wedding location appropriate for smaller gatherings. Large halls do not usually take bookings for smaller numbers of people; that leaves you with the opportunity to try something new or unusual. In addition to local inns, private gardens, and public parks, consider any nearby wedding chapels, wineries with landscaped grounds, or apartment complex clubhouses. There are many unusual spots not traditionally chosen for weddings and receptions.
Design your menu to follow your guests' preferences. Large crowds require a menu designed to please most tastes, but when your guests are a small number of well-known family and friends, you can capitalize on this opportunity to serve a menu of their collective favorites.
Let all your family and friends say a few words and express their feelings at the event. Relax and dispense with formality. Let this be a moment that becomes a lifelong memory of love and acceptance.
Set up a video display of past highlights with family and friends. Show past family events and achievements that bind you together.
Involve each family member in the dance and enjoy and live through each second.

Tips

Have a friend or family member conduct the wedding ceremony. This can save several hundred dollars which your minister may charge. See information on Becoming Ordained to set up your choice of an officiant.
If budget is not a problem, you can organize a theme marriage. Fewer people can fit in well in an Arabian theme or beach side celebration with dance and jubilations to follow.
You can plan a vacation wedding as well. With just family and few close friends it will not be grand expense. You can even stay there later for enjoying the marital bliss and take leave from friends.
Stress more on smaller details as you do not have to be worried about attending lot of people and arrangements.
Excuse your self by explaining to people that the whole thing was planned in haste.
For the ones that aren't invited, sit down and talk to them about why you want a small, private wedding. There more than likely will be people with hurt feelings, and people who don't understand your intentions, and a good explanation may help for those who are truly hurting.
Small private weddings might not be the most preferred ones but they surely are wisest choices. Looking back you will have people envying you for this dynamic move and wish they had done the same.
Avoid all the hassle of telling everyone. Keep it a secret from everyone who isn't invited-that way you won't hurt their feelings. Then, when you come back from your honeymoon, break the news to friends and family and throw a big reception bash.

Warnings

You will get mixed reactions to your decision.
Be prepared to answer friends and guests who were left out of invitations.
Gear your self for some very emotional moments.
Many people only get married once, so keep that in mind when you are writing your guests' names down. For example, if you don't invite certain people (grandparents, etc.) to your wedding, you may feel guilty down the line somewhere (whether it's your wedding day, or two years down the road).

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Sunday, 21 November 2010